It’s not so easy for a girl to agree to meet with a stranger. When you meet someone personally, you can see their facial expressions, hear intonation and get a real idea of who they are. This person cannot fake the reaction, and you can hear their answer in real time. Physical presence is an important part of building relationships when you are involved in foreign dating.
Offline communication can confirm or refute the attractiveness of another person because online dating can generate too many fantasies and unreasonable expectations. The bottom line is that you should ask a girl out. Of course, you can be insanely nervous, but your offer is the first step towards real communication in the offline world. What can you do to succeed?
Pay attention to your conversations.
Your feelings about a girl can be a powerful indicator of whether it is worth asking her out on a date. Preliminary online communication can give you some clues. If you don’t share her answers, views, and reactions, keep it that way. If everything suits you and even provokes your curiosity, then choose the right moment and ask her out.
On the other hand, if a girl is genuinely interested in knowing you better or if she has mentioned that she is ready for a serious relationship, your chances of success are higher. The main thing is not to rush things. Girls avoid guys who seem insecure or intrusive.
Choose a right form of asking out.
It is important to be as tactful as possible. Even if you communicate extremely easily and on personal topics, do not turn up the heat. If a guy compulsively asks out on a date after a couple of chats, this is alarming and frightening off. Even if you offer to visit the exhibition of mammoths in the central part of the city in broad daylight.
If you build relationships systematically and increase the level of trust, then the offer to meet offline will be completely natural. Ideally, the initiative should come from the girl. In any case, the categorical statements like, “I’ll pick you up at 10, be ready” will not add points to your image. She should have the freedom of choice, but you should clearly indicate the desire to meet personally.
Pave the way.
Clarify her preferences before offering a joint activity in real life. You do not want to be rejected because you have offered an activity that does not suit her. For example, you can offer to watch a movie that a girl does not want to watch at all. In this case, she will respond you that she is busy on this day, and you will not meet. Discussion of topics is a great way to improve your chances. Talk, for example, about movies and food. You can get information about her preferences.
When a girl shows an interest in a particular topic, you can use this as a trigger and start talking about a meeting. For example, she tells you in detail how much she loves ice cream and theater. Isn’t it a good reason to invite her to an interesting play and to eat ice cream after it?
Just find out whether she has free time. If she is interested, she will most likely tell you about her schedule, and you will be able to coordinate the joint event. You should have a few options in store and find out about creative date ideas in advance.
You will never move further if you do not ask her out.
If you do not ask a question, you will continue to communicate in a dialogue mode on the dating site until she gets bored and finds someone braver enough to meet her in person. Yes, refusals do happen, but it is better to get “no” at an early stage than after many months of effort, expectations, and fantasies. When one door closes, another one necessarily opens.